Questionnaire on INTERPRETATIONS of language use towards superiors・inferiors ・ equals
■FEMALE --"ACTIVE" QUESTIONS 23人 1. What are the words you would say to a partner.... 相手は大切。。。 1. you want to do something for the other 2 2. like you / love you 4 3. ambiguous / flattery / no answer 13 4. you want the other to do something for you 42. How do you tell a child... 子供に対する。。。 1. do something for the child 2 2. like you / love you / flattery/ no verbal answer 18 (body language 2) 3. place expectations on the child 3
3. How do you tell a parent... 親に対する。。。 1. do something for the parent 4 2. thank you / appreciation / na 17 ('thank you' 15) 3. want the parent to do something 2
4. How do you tell a friend... 友達に。。。 1. do something for the friend 4 2. ambiguous / thank you / no words 11 3. want the friend to do something for them 8
5. What are the words you use to a friend... 友達に傷つけられたり。。。 1. expressing how your friend made you feel 4 ('thank you' 15) 2. criticizing your friend 6 (silent 1) 3. ambiguous / no answer 11 4. complete rejection 1
6. What words would you use to deceive... 相手が大切だと。。。 1. exaggerating 8 2. ambiguous 11 3. hypocritical / manipulating 5
7.What words would you use to deceive someone into... 本当は怒りを感じているのにも関わらず。。。 1. lying / exaggeration 9 2. ambiguous（平気、大丈夫、気にしてない) 10 3. no answer / etc 4
8.What words would you use to make someone do... 誰かに何かをして欲しい時。。。 1. refer to self 6 2. neutral 11 3. direct demand 4
4. considerate 9.What words would you use to make someone stop... 誰かがなにかをするのをやめさせるためには。。。 1. telling what's best for them from your view 15 2. neutral 2 3. direct 6
10.What words would you use to criticize... 誰かを非難したり。。。 1. denying whole person 6 2. no answer 4 3. direct 13
■FEMALE -- "PASSIVE" ３２人 1. What are the words you... あなたが大切だと。。。 1. you get the attention directly (with action) 5 2. neutral / no answer 7 3. flattery (only words) 16 4. expect you to do something for them 4
2. How does a child... 子供はあなたに愛情を。。。 1. child needs you / you to do something 7 2. love you / like you / no answer 16 3. child gives you something / wants to be with you 9
3. How does a parent... 親はあなたに愛情を。。。 1. lots of expectation 10 2. trust you 6 3. silent / care about 12 4. manipulation 4
4. How does a friend tell you... 友達があなたの大切さを。。。 1. be needed 5 2. balanced / no answer 12 3. do something for you / flattery 15
5. What are the words a friend... あなたが友達を傷つけて。。。 1. total rejection 7 2. direct confrontation 12 3. no answer 4 4. wrong answer 9
6. What words has someone used to... 本当はそうでないのに。。。 1. broken promise 11 2. no answer / wrong answer 9 3. covert 12
7. What words has someone used to... 本当は怒っているのに。。。 1. direct lie 11 2. neutral（気にしないで、大丈夫) 12 3. no answers /wrong answers 4 4. shift or cover the blame 5
8. What words has someone... あなたに何かをして欲しい時。。。 1. pressure 7 2. no answer 2 3. neutral（お願い等） 20 4. mutual 3
9. What words has someone used ... あなたが何かするのを。。。 1. big pressure 5 2. neutral & direct 16 3. no answers 2 4. pretended concern for the doer 9
10. What words has someone ... あなたを非難したり。。。 1. personal attack 17 2. direct, inpersonal 5 3. no answer 2 4. covert blame 4 5. reported perception 4
■MALE -- "ACTIVE" QUESTIONS 40人
1. What are the words you...to a partner...care? 相手が大切だということ。。。 1. you want to do something for the other 2 2. like you / love you 13 3. ambiguous / flattery / no answer 13 (na 4) 4. you want the other to do something for you 8 5. non-verbally 4
2. How do you tell a child...care? 子供に対する愛情。。 1. do something for the child 2 2. like you / love you / flattery/ no verbal answer 24 (na 5) 3. place expectations on the child 3 4. non-verbally 4 5. neutral: "take care"など 7
3. How do you tell a parent...? 親に対する愛情。。。 1. do something for the parent 0 2. thank you / appreciation / no words 21 (na 4) 3. want the parent to do something 2 4. express trust / compliments / solicitousness 12 5. non-verbally 5
4. How do you tell a friend...? 友達に、相手が大切だと。。。 1. do something for the friend 6 2. thank you / I like you / flattery 24 3. want the friend to do something for them 4 4. non-verbally 3 5. na 3
6. What words...you...deceive someone into thinking you care...? 相手が大切だとその人に思わせる。。。 1. exaggerating 2 2. ambiguous 10 3. hypocritical / manipulating 9 4. straightforward, with excuse 1 5. silence 6 6. wrong 4 7. na 8
7. What words...you...deceive someone into thinking you were not angry...? 。。。怒っていないと相手に思い込み。。。？ 1. words about the other 4 2. words about oneself 9 3. neutral / words about both 15 4. silence / change the subject 10 5. wrong answer / na 2
8. What words...you...make someone do something you want? 誰かに何かをして欲しい時。。。。？ 1. refer to self 3 2. neutral 1 3. demand / request 31 4. considerate (丁寧 / おたがい) 3 5. wrong answer 2
9. What words...you...make someone stop doing something? 誰かが何かするのをやめさせるためには。。。？ 1. telling what's best for them from your view 5 2. neutral 12 3. direct 17 4. personalized opposition 4 5. wrong / na 2
10. What words...you...criticize or hurt...? 誰かを非難したり、傷つけ陽とする時。。。？ 1. denying whole person 8 2. neutral 2 3. direct 21 4. silence 7 5. wrong answer 2
■MALE -- "PASSIVE" QUESTIONS ２3人
1. What are the words...from a partner...care? あなたが大切だと思わせてくれるような相手の言葉。。。？ 1. you get the attention directly (with action) 5 2. neutral / no answer 8 3. flattery (only words) 3 4. expect you to do something for them 4 5. na 3
2. How does a chiled tell you...care? 子供はあなたに愛情。。。？ 1. child needs you / you to do something 5 2. love you / like you / thank you 4 3. child gives you something 2 4. body language 2 5. indirect monologue or dialogue 5 6. na 5
3. How does a parent tell you...? 親はあなたに愛情を。。。？ 1. lots of expectation 2 2. care about / tell you to take care 10 3. indirect (talk about other things) 7 4. silence / body language 3 5. na 1
4. How does a friend tell you...? 友達があなたの多切さを表現する言葉。。。？ 1. be needed 5 2. balanced / no answer 5 3. do something for you / flattery 3 4. flattery / praise 6 5. silence 1 6. na 2 7. make fun of others 1
5. What are the words a friend...is hurt or angry with you? あなたが友達を傷つけてしまった時。。。？ 1. total rejection 7 2. direct confrontation 8 3. wrong answer 1 4. silence / body lang. / change the subj. 4 5. na 3
6. What words has someone used to deceive you...cared about you? あなたのことが大切だと思い込ませるために。。？ 1. empty promise / offer / concern 4 2. praise / flattery 10 3. talk about themselves 2 4. na 6 5. wrong answer 1
7. What words has s.o. used...deceive you...not angry with you? 怒っていないとあなたに思い込ませるために。。。？ 1. direct lie 5 2. neutral（気にしないで、大丈夫) 11 3. they say they are OK 2 4. silence / change the subject 2 5. na 3
8. What words has s.o. used to make you do something s/he wants? あなたに何かをして欲しい時。。。？ 1. flattery 1 2. request politely 12 3. request directly 5 4. tell you that you want to do it 3 5. na 2
9. What words has s.o. used to make you stop...? あなたが何かするのをやめさせる時。。。？ 1. pressure 2 2. neutral & direct 17 3. pretended concern for the doer (``you'') 2 4. na 2
10. What words has someone used to criticize or hurt you? 1. personal attack: rejection of whole person 9 2. attack your behavior or aspect of personality 8 3. indirect / impersonal 2 4. na 4